Bad dreams

For as long as I can remember I’ve been one to remember dreams, good and bad. Last night I woke up from a bad dream.

First, a little back story. In the early 90’s there was a college basketball star for the local college; he was drafted by the NBA, and then played in international leagues and coached some. I hate basketball so I don’t really know. My stepdad follows basketball.

Fast-forward to maybe 7 years ago I was looking for rentals, and this guy owns a crap ton in the area; same college town that he is an alumni for. I never reached out, because I found some elsewhere that worked out better. Somehow he started messaging me on Facebook; and it was creepy, like I blocked him creepy. He showed up at the country bar I was a regular at acting all creepy, and would not stop gawking.  I’m not anything special, just a tomboy.

He got a little blunt one night; and TOTALLY crossed the line, and it’s tough to do so with me. I told him “wrong fucking answer” and walked up to the owner of the establishment, and told him that it was either he leave, or I’ll never come back. I was a bit embarrassed to tell him what was said to me, but I told him, and he was gone.  I waited around for  while and left too.

I unfortunately have to drive past this creeps condo on the way to my condo, and he knows its me…

I had a dream about him last night and I cannot shake it. I had a hard time falling back asleep. I know my condo is secure; that you have to have a key or be let in; but he’s a 6’10 stocky black guy; that I’m certain I’ve never seen smile. He owns property RIGHT next to my condo complex.

I just keep hoping that he’ll go back to Chicago, but his latest vehicle has Iowa plates, you know cuz all these years they’ve had Illinois ones.

… this too shall pass…


Bad dreams

Scentsy office reorganization / purge

Friday nights always seem to be nights where I’m in bed early. I had planned on doing a little reorganizing in my office. I’ve been here a little over a year, and I’ve moved things around already but finally getting them situated. After coming back from Scentsy Family Reunion last month I’ve realized I need to get some systems in place, make things simple but functional, work smarter not harder.

I crawled in bed Friday with the idea of tackle the office on Saturday. Boy did I!  I basically pulled everything out and put it back together, in a way I thought better fit, and got rid of a bunch of stuff I had either 1) moved from the old apartment and haven’t used since or 2) have no need for, and am just hanging on to it.

It was very nice to pitch some stuff!  And reorganize a bit. I might have overshared on Snapchat…  I did a load of laundry, had lunch and dinner, and watched two documentaries [The Story of Diana and He Named Me Malala] along with listening to some Scentsy trainings!

Fun with Snapchat

A few have asked for a tour of my office. Keep in mind; in January 2015 I decided to finally start working Scentsy like a business vs the hobby I had been working for the last almost 4 years prior; and my big goal was to move into a bigger place so I had an office. At the time I was in a 565 square foot tiny apartment.

Fast forward to April 2016; new condo [still renting] but twice the size, with a second bedroom, that is my Scentsy office! Here are the photos. As you walk in the door then spanning right to left. In order to stay in compliance you might notice some blurring…

And these pictures make it look cluttered; I promise it is not.


I’m totally enjoying the Dymo Label Writer for organization. I didn’t nap at all yesterday. I have a few bags of trash in the kitchen by the door to go out, but I think I’m going to crawl in bed for a bit of a nap right now. I was awake at 8am and met my Dad for breakfast. I think I deserve a nap.

For those of you who may have seen the office before, some might not look much different, but trust me, the purge happened. And a lot of much needed organization. Tonight; I’ll be sitting down to plan out some posts for my team and business page. But first, a nap.

Scentsy office reorganization / purge

Life. It’s where I’m at.

The words I am about to write are a little shocking, even to myself, but I’m going to write it. If it’s on the internet it’s true.  I feel like I’m in a good place with life right now.

For the first time in who knows how long I feel like things are looking up.  The main thing, I’m sleeping. I never realized how big of a role sleep played in my life, how much I complained about it not happening, and how unbearably grumpy I was because I was not getting good, quality sleep.   Switching to the new family doctor, and find this medicine is quite frankly life changing.

I feel like I am in a much better mood throughout the day, like I’m not as testy. Yes, I have my moments, but don’t we all?  When I wake up I feel rested, in fact, I’m usually awake sometime between my first and second alarm and not really fighting going back to sleep.

Work is going great, I’ve found a good rhythm there. I’m not sure if it’s because part of the office has moved to the new hospital and we are still in the old area and it’s a lot less chaotic or what, but I’m not feeling so behind every day when I leave. And I’m working 8:30-5, taking a half hour lunch.  That in and of itself is pretty amazing.

My Scentsy business is doing well. I am still feeling a little like I’m on a high from our national convention, in that I have a lot of ideas, and I’m amped up for the end of this catalog and start of the new one in September.  Between myself and three other friends we’ve created an accountability group, and it’s something that’s done a world of difference for me, my confidence in myself as a consultant, and my business. It’s so great to have people from California, Washington, Louisiana and obviously, Iowa and all about in the same spot rank-wise working towards the same goal.

I have set some boundaries with my team; as in I’ve set hours in which I’m not responding before or after; it’s a bit freeing. I need to also take care of me, and my business too.  I’m working on some systems / programs that’ll help keep me organized, keeping in touch with my customers, and my team.

If I had to pick something that’s maybe not so great right now; finances and friends, but I’m working on it. I ditched my cable, and shockingly I do not have any streaming service. Not Netflix, Hulu, Sling, nothing.  I finally joined the library in my town; so I’ve been reading and listening to books through their service!  I don’t really need the cable.

To quote Bobby Bones “you feelings are never wrong” I’m still a little lost at how a friend of many years kind of just dropped me from his life. I’ve not seen him in a year now. We live 20 miles apart. I sent a plant when he lost his grandfather, around the time I lost my last grandpa. Not even a thank you, a text, nothing.  I’m mostly just butthurt because this said friend didn’t reach out to say thank you for the plant.  I mean, it just goes to show what my friendship meant.

Being 100% honest, I have no friends around here that are within 30 miles to hang out with. The few I can count on are still about an hour away,  and the others are more acquaintances that would show up somewhere but no one to just go shopping with or come hang out. My best friend lives in Nashville, my great friends because of Scentsy are all over the US – and believe me, they are the greatest.

I need to get out there, wherever “there is”. I’ve grown a bit more comfortable with going places solo. This was a huge fear, but thank you to Scentsy, I can say my confidence is ever growing.

But really, I feel like I’m at a great place, things are headed in the right direction. I’m not expecting the ball to drop, but I feel like I’m in a better place for if/when it does because life isn’t smooth sailing always.

Bring on the fall, and uhhh 35; it’s just around the corner. I kind of have some goals for myself for my 35th year of life… anxious to watch them come to fruition.


Life. It’s where I’m at.

Family names

Last night around 11:15 my cousin, Ash who is only 13 days older than me delivered their third child. A boy! She’s joined by two girls, Ava and Cora.   We are a tight knit group of cousins. Ashley was the first Parizek grandbaby, followed by my arrival 13 days later.

The story goes; mom was at Ashley’s two-week well baby check with them. The doctor tried to call my mom, couldn’t get ahold of her, got in touch with my Dad and the “healthy baby girl, come get her” was the message.  I kind of stole the thunder, and a lot of things. My parents had to use her car seat, and clothes and diapers for a few days until they could get their own for me. I came home to a huge party, oysters, signs, champagne.

My parents tried for many years to get pregnant, and it just wasn’t in the cards, and they got me!   Ash grew up 3 miles up the road. In the 4 mile stretch that was the former RR2; was Kirt’s farm (Ashley’s parents), my Dad’s place, and the Parizek farm – Grandma & Grandpa!   It wasn’t long after that the boys came. My brother Luke was born in May of 84, followed by Mitchell was born in January of 84 to Kirt and Debbie.

Mitchell passed away in August of 1986 of SIDS; it was sort of unheard of at the time.   Brent was born in November of 1988 after a reversed vasectomy.

A little backstory. The Parizek family is sort of small but sort of big!  The Parizek’s originated from Czechoslovakia; the now Czech Republic. My Great Great Grandpa Joe came from there to Iowa!

My Great Great Grandpa: Joseph Parizek

My Great Grandpa: Joseph Parizek

My Grandpa: Gilbert Joseph

My Dad: Stephen Joseph

My brother, the first born son: Lucas Joseph

My nephew, first born son of this set of grandkids: Treyden Joseph

As you can tell by the last name, we’re Czech! St. Joesph’s Day is a big celebration in the Czech world, so the name is very meaningful in our family, and it’s been passed down, and I love it!

Back to the story, Mitchell’s middle name is Tyler.

When Brent was born, he was Brent Mitchell.  When Ash was first pregnant, after Luke had his boy and used Joseph, Ash and I talked about names. She wanted to use Ava (after our grandma Eva) so I said I’m okay with that as long as I can have Eden, grandma Eva’s maiden name. We agreed.  We’ve always known Brent would name his first son Mitchell.

When Ashley announced her son’s name this morning; Nico Tyler, I lost it at my desk. I love how she used her baby brother’s middle name.

My family, though they may not be blood, I love them dearly, and I’m very proud of my heritage, even though… it might not really be mine. I love the strong names in our family, being passed down. I love how us four cousins easily agree on useage of names, and it’s not a fight.  And I cannot wait to go snuggle Nico this evening after work.


Family names

Scentsy Family Reunion Recap

In my last post; I mostly just touched on what my month was like; well the third week of the month was the best. And probably the highlight of my year, always. It has been for the last 4 years.

Scentsy Family Reunion; it’s our yearly convention. This year it was in Kansas City.  I had the week off, and intended on getting up at a decent time on Monday to drive down and be there by 1ish; after the lunch rush. Adam was going to come stay with me Sunday night, and I was almost all packed, but he sent a few texts and explained of something breaking at his parents place, and there was water, everywhere. It would be 8 before he got here, and he’d be asleep by 9 – he goes to work really early!

I decided I was going to carry my bags to my car and take off. Now a few things. I drive better in the evening because Geek Glare is a real thing, my glasses have prisms in them, and even with those ultra dorky snap on sunglasses things it’s just not as fun. I was loaded up by 7:30 I think and on the road. The second thing,  I can count on one-hand how many times I leave my house in yoga pants. Spoiler alert: I don’t do yoga, never have.  And I hide behind clothes, yoga pants are a bit too “showy” of my chunky chick status that I’m not comfy with me.  But I did anyways.

There was an accident on the interstate that had me stopped for about 30 minutes, but in that time I booked a shady hotel, like if I would have spent another $10-15 I would have been much happier.  I got to a small town about 20 mile from downtown and basically just went to sleep. I got up and decided to call the hotel I was staying at the rest of the week and see if I could check in early. I had planned on getting the heck out of this current room ASAP. They said anytime is fine. I was thinking 1 PM vs the 3 PM check in.  You better believe I bolted and headed there.

Then the week of awesome started.  I offered to pick up a few teammates from the airport; one was a girl I had not even met face-to-face and we spoke on Facebook maybe 5 times; but it was her first SFR, and I wanted to make her feel welcome, because we’re family, after all.   I have no problem talking – look how long this post is!

She and I got back, she got checked in, then we found this awesome market – Cosentino’s Market and it was amazing!  We parted ways after dinner, and I went back to the hotel. I met up with Jess L (also never met her face-to-face) and chat with her for a bit before picking up Meagan at the airport. Jess came with, so that was nice!

I wish I could put into words how you feel at Scentsy Family Reunion; but I’m not sure there are words adequate enough to describe it.   Love, Passion, Rejuvenation, Connection,  Desire.  Wait wait wait, head out of the gutter.  But for real. Love for the product, our owner and President, our home office team, our Scentsy Teams. Passion for the business, rejuvenation  for when you feel like maybe your business is taking a dip. Connecting with teammates who you only see once a year. Desire to make this business flourish, bigger and better than the past year.

I don’t think I was asleep earlier than 2:30 the whole week, and we were up and moving by 7:45 every day.  It’s just that #ScentsyLife

There was a point on Thursday afternoon where I hit a wall. Exhaustion and being overwhelmed. Not in a bad way, but so much info, so much stuff, I just was like “how am I going to do all this?”  I was glad that after it was over, I had a weekend of nothing at home.  But that slump was over quickly and Awards Night was upon us – this is the end of the convention. We find out about the new incentive trip, where SFR will be the next year, and who is named the highest honor – Shining Star!

The drive home, my mind just needed a break, so I put on an audiobook – I listed to one on the way down and one on the way home;  never have I done this before and enjoyed it.   I only have ever listened to The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up; and let me tell you, she needs to hire someone better to read her book.  Also, I’ve not yet found that spark of joy in regards to tidying up.

But this week [it’s already Thursday night, what!?] has been a whirlwind too.  Still on the SFR high you want to figure out how to earn the trip, and do this and that, and talk to your new teammates you connected with.

This week was like this: back to the j-o-b; which wasn’t bad! I kind of welcomed the normalcy of that chaos.

Monday – catch up

Tuesday – training on how to earn the incentive, followed by a 1:1 with my upline / mentors.

Wednesday – team training, recapping SFR; honestly I had this on but I kinda was mostly just there online in spirit; I got some things done in my office.

Tonight – all I’ve done is feed myself and pick up something at Staples.

I have not been in bed or asleep before midnight since being home. I think my body is still like but you were doing fine on 4 1/2 – 5 hours…

It’s 11pm now, and I’m shocked it’s almost the weekend. No plans until I have to bartend on Sunday. A last minute fill in, then I should be off the hook for that gig for a while, but I honestly don’t mind subbing here and there.

My plan for the weekend is sleep. Oh, and somehow my condo was dang near spotless when I left, and since coming home it basically looks like a tornado.  I’m single, no kids live here, only have myself to blame.  I had “planned in my planner”  no office time tonight and to relax, hah!

Tomorrow I’m not letting myself come in my office. I will clean the kitchen, cook something at home, watch whats on the DVR before cable is cancelled on Monday and maybe read? I dunno I might listen to that last book in the series, I enjoyed it. I’m not in the car TOO long but it’d be alright!

Okay…  I must go to bed. Congrats on reading this novel.


Scentsy Family Reunion Recap

And just like that, another month gone.

I’m not exactly sure where these last four weeks have gone, but it’s been almost a month since I last wrote. I am honestly looking through the planner so I can somewhat touch on the last month.

A recap of July:

  • Saw Bobby Bones on his comedy tour; and it was phenomenal. I laughed so much! I would see him again in a heart beat.
  • Over the 4th; I went to my Uncle Kirt’s at the farm on the 3rd [we started this tradition a few years ago] to do fireworks, then the 4th we go to Dad’s camper and have a cookout, and go on the boat.  It didn’t work out timing wise for me to go on the boat because Adam came to town and put my patio furniture together.
  • I was supposed to sling some wax at a vendor event; but there was some major miscommunication and things that did not fly with me / what I agreed to on the contract so I bowed out last minute. It worked out in my favor.
  • That weekend, we took my Grandma B to lunch for her birthday; and Mom had a bartender quit via a note after his shift ending at 2 am Sunday morning, so I filled in and bartended on Sunday.  It was nice to be back. I’m not going to be “on the schedule” but I will fill in a Sunday here or there.  July 30th is the next one.
  • The week of the 10th there was a 48 hour flash sale with Scentsy so I was pretty busy on my break and after work answering questions from customers.
  • The weekend of the 15th I got things all ready to head to Kansas City!
  • Adam was going to come Sunday night and stay with me, but they were fixing something emergent at his moms; so he wouldn’t even get here until 8; he’d be asleep by 9, so I decided to just hop in the car and head down to KC about 7:30. I drive much better in the evening, there wasn’t much traffic.
  • I got a cheap; sorta, okay, really not so great hotel, that if I would have drove 5 miles more and paid an extra $10 it would have been much better, but I just needed a place to sleep.
  • I woke up and was able to get checked in early to the hotel we’d be at for the week (9:30 am!)
  •  A full week of Scentsy Family Reunion [our yearly convention] including my first ever MLB game! It was hot, I’m used to the heat and humidity, but once it’s 95, it’s just miserable, no matter where you are from and HOW used to it you are.
  • I was bummed for it to be over, but on Thursday afternoon for about an hour I hit a wall and was ready to be done, then it was I already miss it!
  • I drove home Friday after getting Meagan to the airport, into a tornado warning – one had gone through Tuesday night.
  • My 2nd of 3 tomato plants did not weather the storms; we’ve had some brutal ones. I have one left.
  • Adjusting back to normal sleep times is tough. I was up until 3 am last night; because we mostly only slept 2:30-7:30 the whole week.
  • I went to WL and met up with a few of my team members to share the new Scentsy products,  scents, and information – more to come on this.
  • I’ve avoided a nap today, and have been yawning like crazy.  I think I’m actually going to crawl in bed. Here goes nothing!

I’ll leave you with a few pictures from this past month.

Chillin’ in a chair at the Coralville Res – at Dad’s camper!
amm patio furniture
Obviously; I’m supervising, while Adam does all the work. Look at that concentration.
KC Royals game at Kauffman Stadium 7/19  L to R: Amy, Meagan, me, Kristine! 
View from our seats – I’m not afraid of heights but many around us were struggling with this.
Top is the temperature on the weather app, bottom is the temperature in my car – this was with the AC on and car had been running for a good hour.  #miserablyhot #midwestsummers


And just like that, another month gone.